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As I came across the Triborough Bridge into Manhattan, I eyed my phone and wondered if I’d see the same faces from the last time I was online.NYC has a really high turnover rate because every queen east of the Mississippi who wants to get out of their small town and follow their dreams usually ends up here at some point.
I was on Scruff for 14 days with my hair down and fully visible in all its luscious glory.
The actual text of my profiles is always amazing, and I don’t say that just because I think so.
My greatest strength is my personality, and I’m not very photogenic.
Add that to the fact that black men are virtually invisible on online dating sites (unless you are in the top 5 percent of musculature and attractiveness) compared to white men (who can be completely average in every way and still fill a social calendar), and it became clear to me that looking for dates on the Internet was pointless for me, personally.
I also chose Scruff for two experimentally important reasons: 1) Unlike Grindr, Scruff allows you to write an actual profile, meaning I could test my visual variable against a control of wit and intelligence and 2) Unlike Ok Cupid, only one picture is shown unless you unlock others.
I didn’t want prospective chatters to see other pictures because I wanted to cultivate a specific image.
I should mention that Scruff is ostensibly pitched to a more masculine, “scruffy,” type of guy, but in my experience, all kinds of guys actually use it, though in smaller numbers.
While you will still encounter a lot of beards and body hair on the grid, the app has definitely evolved from being Grindr’s manlier cousin to make room for more variety.
Most gay men already know that the more masculine you present in online dating profiles, the more interest you will attract.
I’ve always known that, aside from being black, my feminine, flowing, chest-length locks were the greatest deterrent to my own success, which is why I logged off altogether for a while.
That’s perfectly fine as it goes: Scruff is a gay app, and it’s fairly common knowledge that a large chunk of users only want to have sex.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating