How to talk to women on dating sites

They may have set up the profile on a lark and forgot about it after moving on when some other social network caught their attention.

They may have started dating somebody they met on that very site and just never got around to closing their account or editing their profile to indicate that they’re no longer on the market.

You have control over the impression you want to deliver, from that perfect photo to the charming and witty dating profile that captures and holds their attention.

It could be that appearing unsure makes the writer seem more vulnerable and less threatening. But either way: men should be careful not to let the appearance of vulnerability become the appearance of sweaty desperation: , 23%)!

Mentioning your religion helps you, but, paradoxically, it helps you most if you have no religion.

We know that’s going to piss a lot of people off, and we’re more or less tongue-in-cheek with this advice, but it’s what the numbers say.

does help a person get noticed (reply rate 56%), but maybe that shouldn’t be a surprise on a site that is itself named for a member of the Classical pantheon.

We’re presenting just a smattering: in fact every “niche” word that we have significant data on has a positive effect on messaging., no doubt because of its adverbial meaning of “to a fair degree; moderately” also helps male messages.

A lot of real-world dating advice tells men to be more confident, but apparently hemming and hawing a little works well online.

On the other hand, more general compliments seem to work well: is almost always used to describe the way something or someone looks, and you can see how that works out. After all, the way you choose to start your initial message to someone is the “first impression of your first impression.” The results surprised us: perform better, bucking the general “be literate” rule.

In fact, it’s smarter to use no traditional salutation at all (which earns you the reply rate of 27%) and just dive into whatever you have to say than to start with all did very well.

Sometimes you have to accept that the only common denominator in all of those people you’re messaging. She hasn’t responded to a single email you ever sent… One of the risks (for suitably inflated values of “risk”) that you’re going to come across in the world of online dating is the dating site account that’s dead yet still shuffling around: the zombie profile.

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